Guest Speaker: Sarah Joseph from Prenatal to Parenting
Sarah Joseph is a Hypnobabies Instructor, Birth & Postpartum Doula, a Placenta Specialist and the mother of two. After the birth of her first child she started Prenatal to Parenting where she offers childbirth education, doula support, placenta encapsulation and parent education.
5 Tips for Dads-to-be in the Delivery Room:
Dads-to-be can make a big difference in the delivery room, but in order to do so they need to prepare. Here are some tips on where to focus your energy so you can make a positive difference during the birth of your baby.
- Learn about birthing, interventions and your options – taking a childbirth education class is likely the best way to learn all about birthing, interventions, your options and comfort measures for mom. Doing so will make you more confident and calm on the big day. It will also give you the ability to make informed decisions about medical care for your partner and baby. Mom is going to be a bit busy, having a baby and all, so it’s important that you are educated and have discussed your wishes in advance. Creating a birth plan together is a fantastic way to discuss your options and make decision ahead of time.
- Read and understand the 'Sphincter Law'–Ina May Gaskin (drop her name to look like you’ve been doing your homework) created the 'Sphincter Law' to explain why some women give birth easily while others seem to require the assistance of medical intervention. In short, the law states that the vagina and the cervix are sphincters, just like the anus and the urethra. They each normally stay closed but are able to open as widely as needed when necessary. The most important factor of the law is the explanation of how sphincters function best – ie: how a woman can birth easily.
- The advantages of hiring a doula – Doulas aren’t just for Moms! Doulas support Dads too. They are there to give you breaks – you are going to want to pee, eat, and maybe even nap at some point, right? They are there to coach you through comfort measures – aka make you look good. And they are there to remind you of all the stuff you’ve learned during your preparation. A Doula is like the coach of the football team; you wouldn’t think of sending your team to the super bowl without one.
- Pack the hospital bags – whether you are having a hospital birth or a home birth you will need to pack a hospital bag. I always advise that Mom’s gather all the items she wants and spread them out on the bed and then let Dad do the actual packing. This way when Mom asks for something, Dad will know exactly where to find it.
- Manage the room – Mom needs to focus on riding the birthing waves, so it’s Dads job to answer questions from staff, make sure no one is trying to talk to her during birthing waves and that the environment feels safe and comfortable for her.
If you can follow these five tips I promise you’ll make a fantastic addition in the delivery room and your partner will be thoroughly impressed with your involvement. Trust me, as a Mom, Doula and Childbirth Educator; this is your way to earn loads of points, if you’re into that sort of thing.
I’m excited to be a guest speaker at the upcoming Dads-to-be Bootcamp Workshop and share more tips with you for beyond the bump.